Some answers you can give
In answer to: 'What will happen to me?'
You could say something like…
'Daddy/Mummy/Granny, etc will still be here and will look after you. Daddy will take you to school and Auntie Jane will collect you after school and you will stay with her until Daddy comes home and collects you. Uncle Tom will take you to swimming/football/etc.'
Children need very specific answers to this question. They need to know where they will live and who with, and who will do all the things you have been doing for them.
'Will Daddy/Granny die too?'
'Everybody has to die at some time, but Daddy/Granny is healthy at the moment and there is no reason to think that he or she will die soon.'
'What about you?'
You may feel uncomfortable talking about your death with your child. Many parents find this too painful. If you feel like that, you can ask a friend or a professional who knows you and your child – possibly a teacher – to talk to your child. The chosen person must be someone that your child has confidence in and that they already have a supportive relationship with.
The main thing to remember about telling your child is that they need clear, simple, truthful information repeated as things change. Even if the situation has not changed, younger children often need the same information to be repeated several times. They may ask the same question over and over again, and it is important to answer in a consistent way as often as the child finds it necessary.